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Hookups Are Better When You Ask Questions

Hookups Are Better When You Ask Questions

Alcohol and Parties

This is all obviously complicated by alcohol. In 2015, the National Institute of Health found that 58 percent of college students aged 18 to 22 drank alcohol in the last month. Drinking can lead to sex that students regret, but the fundamental contradiction is that college students (and post-grad adults, honestly) drink to lower their inhibitions and work up the courage to approach someone they like-but when everyone is drinking, communicating clearly can be impossible. “There’s definitely a correlation on campus. If you’re sexually active then you probably drink,” Talukder told me. “If you don’t go to parties people assume you aren’t sexually active unless you’re in a relationship. Besides frat parties, there isn’t much to work with.”

“It’s scarier and more vulnerable to be sober and with it. That means yeah you might say something awkward-you might say ‘dock’ when you’re trying to say ‘dick’ or ‘cock’ and you can’t choose. That is OK.”

Communication and consent workshops also guide students through the effects of alcohol. A big topic is “alcohol myopia, where you don’t forget about more distant concerns but they loom less in your mind compared to more salient cues,” Talukder explained.